Monday, July 30, 2018


Its Monday AND its raining.  We could use the rain, but it always makes it harder to get motivated to get things done on a rainy Monday.

So here's a little something to distract you:

I'm in love with this man.  He's perfect.

I love his handsome face with a bit of scruff.  

I love his haircut.  

I love his muscular arms and perfectly rounded pecs.

I love his bubble butt and bulging speedo.

What do YOU think?

Friday, July 27, 2018


I know I posted this before but its so damn funny I'm sharing it again.

Have a great weekend!

Wednesday, July 25, 2018

Comments and emails

Recently I noticed that I'm no longer getting emails from Blogger when someone comments on my posts.  

At 1st I thought no one was commenting, but when I logged into Blogger I could see the comments were there.  But for some reason, I'm no longer getting emails notifying me of the comments.

I revisited my Blogger settings page and confirmed my email address was still correct.  I even removed it and added it back in, but it didn't fix the problem.

I checked the spam folder in my email to see if I'd accidentally made the sending email address look like spam, but nothing was there.

Has anyone else noticed this?

Does anyone have any idea how to restore the emails when someone comments?

Any assistance would be appreciated!

Monday, July 23, 2018


...and the livin' is easy.
My boys relaxing and enjoying the sites and smells of the yard from the comfort of the porch yesterday.

Friday, July 20, 2018

Happy birthday!

Today is Spouse's birthday.

As usual, there will be a floral arrangement waiting for him when he gets to work today.  He loves flowers and I love sending them to his office, which gets him lots of attention.  Many of his female colleagues say they're jealous of how loved and well-treated he is.  Knowing this makes me smile.

Tonight we're going to dinner with Steven & Thad to a restaurant we've never been to before.  Its not new, and its been highly recommended by people I know.  I'm not sure why we haven't been before, but I'm hoping for a great meal.

For a change he told me what he wanted for his birthday this year:  a new kitchen sink and faucet!

We currently have a 2-basin sink which be both find annoying, so I'm going to have it replaced with a single-basin sink that's the same size. This will be much more practical.  We're also replacing our existing faucet which is starting to drip with a new one.  Spouse wants a goose-neck style so that's what we're getting.  I've already picked both out and confirmed they were in stock so I'm just waiting for the contractor to give me the date.

After 23 birthdays together there's only so many surprise gifts you can come up with, so I was actually really happy he told me what he really wanted.

Monday, July 16, 2018

Monday message

Here's my inspirational message for the week:

Who am I trying to kid?  Here's my REAL message for the week:

I hope your week goes well!

Wednesday, July 11, 2018

MY Independence day

Last Wed was July 4th or Independence Day.  I didn't have time to write what I really wanted to write then, so I'm writing it now.

July 4th is commonly known as Independence Day, where Americans celebrate their independence from Great Britain.  But the week following July 4th is special to me as I think back to MY independence from a religion that controlled my life.

I was raised in the Jehovah's Witness religion, a separatist religion that believes they are the only ones with the TRUE religion.  One of their many unusual teachings is that being gay is a choice and a 'learned behavior'.  Sometime in my 20s I realized that this belief wasn't true.  I'd known I was gay since I was a kid but didn't know any other gay people, so from whom could I have 'learned' this?  

Once I understood the Jehovah's Witness religion was wrong about that teaching I became suspicious of many other teachings with which I was never comfortable, such as shunning.  JWs are taught to shun those who leave the religion, even family members.  They claim they do this to protect the congregation from the sin of the one being shunned, but I always thought it seemed like emotional blackmail to require relatives to shun their family.

On Sat, July 3, 1993, 25 years ago, I met a man at a gay bar who would become my boyfriend. We spent the long, holiday weekend together and I decided then that I would not return to the JW church.

Even though I knew this decision would eventually result in being shunned by my family and friends.

The week following July 4th 25 years ago was glorious as I felt a new sense of freedom I'd never experienced before, and as I spent time with my new boyfriend.

And then came the gut-wrenching meeting with my family where I told them I was gay, I was leaving the JW religion, and that I understood I would be shunned and likely not see or hear from them again. They tried to talk me out of it but my mind was made up.  Everyone cried.

But as hard as it was to do that, I knew it was the right thing for me, and I felt a sense of relief after it was over.  I simply HAD to start becoming my authentic self.

So, 25 years ago, just after Independence Day, was MY independence day.

If interested, you can read my full coming out story here: part I, part II, part III, part IV, part V.

Monday, July 09, 2018

Weekend recap

On Sat I worked (as usual) but didn't have any showings scheduled so I volunteered to drive the company bus for a couple hours, providing shuttle transportation to/from a local arts festival.  People were very nice and appreciative of the free shuttle service and it gave me a little something different to do since I had no appointments.

That evening we had a simple/easy dinner out with Steven & Thad, then came home and relaxed a little before heading into town to perform in the Legends show as Boy George.  I love doing that Legend because the songs are so good and his presence is unmistakable. The place was really full and the crowd was really 'into' the show!  Immediately afterward we go out into the audience for 'meet and greet' time, and I got several requests for photos and had several conversations with folks who complimented me on my performance.  My buddies Jason & Kevin were there too so I spent a little time chatting with them as well. It was a really fun night!

When I got home about 11:45 Spouse was watching 'Justice League' so I grabbed a big glass of water and watched it with him.  I can never come home from a show and go right to bed; I need some time to settle down.  

Since we went to bed so late we didn't get up until 9:30 Sun morning.  We picked up wraps and chips and headed to the beach, arriving just before noon.  Believe it or not this was our 1st beach day this season!  May was very rainy and cool, and then in June it seemed like every Sun it was overcast, so this was our 1st opportunity to go.  It was glorious!!  The oppressive humidity we've had for the last 2 weeks broke and there was a lovely breeze blowing.  

The.  Perfect.  Beach.  Day.

I didn't get the laundry done or the dogs bathed as I'd planned, but it was worth it to take advantage of such a pretty day.  That evening we had dinner with Steven & Thad and then stopped at the grocery store on the way home.

A pretty decent weekend.

Friday, July 06, 2018

Nervous tick

Last Sat I was showing homes to new clients and we looked at a home that was bank-owned.  "Bank-owned" is a nice way of saying it was a foreclosure.  Since no one has lived there in a while the yard has not been maintained.  Banks will occasionally pay someone to mow if they get a letter from the HOA saying the grass is too high, but in this case the home was not within an HOA so the grass had not been cut in a while.

While still showing homes I noticed a tick on calf so I removed it with a tissue.  Of course the rest of the day I was nervous and kept checking my legs and arms every time I thought I felt something.  A few hours later when I got home and was changing my clothes I found another tick on my upper thigh!  I removed that one too, then stripped and made Spouse check me for any additional ticks.  Fortunately he didn't find any others.

Then on Mon I was showing homes to 2 nurses so I asked them if there was any kind of after-care I should do after finding 2 ticks on me.  They suggested seeing my doctor for a Lymes disease test, so I got an appointment for Tues afternoon.  My doctor said the Lymes test is not conclusive, and that a negative test result wouldn't mean I didn't have Lymes.  He said people have tested negative but then developed Lymes weeks/months later.  Instead of the test, he suggested I just go ahead and take the special antibiotic they would prescribe if I had Lymes disease.  This kind of made sense to me, to treat as if I had it just to be on the safe side.

So now I'm taking the antibiotic twice a day for 21 days, just to be sure I don't develop Lymes disease or any other tick-borne illness.

Wednesday, July 04, 2018

4th of July

Today is Independence Day, otherwise known as the 4th of July.  Spouse & I have invited some friends over for drinks/snacks around 3:30, then we'll watch the Doo Dah parade about 5:00, then return to the house for dinner, then watch the fireworks around 9:00.

The Doo Dah parade is a great little small town parade with everyone and everything draped in red white and blue stars and stripes.  In past years I've driven Big Ella in the parade but am not doing so this year.  The parade is rather long and is hard on Big Ella, causing her engine to get hot and run rough.  So rather than be in the parade, I'll be a spectator this year.

Spouse selected a terrific 'make ahead' menu:  BBQ pulled pork made in the slow cooker, macaroni and cheese made in the pressure cooker, and BBQ baked beans.  For dessert he's making peach/blueberry pies. 

The fireworks should be nice, as this will be the 1st year of "official" City-sanctioned fireworks.  In past years volunteers have supplied and set off fireworks on the beach, which the fire marshal put an end to last year.  I'm hopeful it will be a nice display.

Hope all of you have a FUN and SAFE 4th of July!

Monday, July 02, 2018

Weekend recap

It was a fun weekend!

After working on Sat (as usual) I performed as Elton John in the Legends show, and then hung out afterward with Charles & John who were in town for the weekend.  I met them 3 summers ago after having performed in the Legends show.  They're originally from NC but live in Philadelphia now due to John's job.  We had fun hanging out on the front patio where we met and talked with lots of interesting characters, most of whom were from out of town.  I didn't get home until 1:30.

They invited me & Spouse and Steven & Thad to lunch at Iron Hill Brewery.  One of the characters we'd met the night before waits tables there during his summer breaks from school so we requested him as our server.  The 6 of us had a fun time talking and eating.  Steven & Thad both lived in Philly so they have a lot of knowledge of things/places there that Charles & John also know about.

Spouse & I stopped by the grocery store on the way home, and since it was rainy and very humid we  just stayed indoors, relaxed and watched some stuff on Netflix.  But it was a fun weekend!