I remember years ago when I was so excited about NCOD because I knew how important it was for GLBT people to be visible. Each year I made it a goal to come out to at least 1 person.
But in my case, I really only had 1 conversation where I directly came out by saying "I'm gay" and that was with my family. All the other times I simply worked it into conversations so that I indirectly came out and the person to whom I was speaking wasn't put on the spot.
What I mean is, when you make the proclamation "I'm gay" you kind of make a big deal out of it and the person then must have some reaction or response. This can make them uncomfortable, not because you're gay, but because they've suddenly been put on the spot.
I prefer an indirect coming out which doesn't require an immediate reaction or response. For instance, I'd say "Last night my partner and I tried that new Thai restaurant..." or "This weekend my partner and I are going to NYC for his birthday. I love NYC - have you ever been there?" To me this is the least confrontational way to come out because you get your point across and the person to whom you're speaking can choose to acknowledge it or not.
Although some people may be a little slow on the uptake. Years ago I introduced Spouse as 'my partner' at a work holiday party and the person to whom I introduced him said "Oh, what kind of business is it?" I replied "He's my domestic partner."
I was surprised to see this article on Facebook, written by an out gay professor, suggesting we abolish NCOD. I totally disagree with his 'logic' that the act of coming out further perpetuates that being gay isn't normal, and that straight people don't come out because being straight is normal. I would say that straight people don't come out because they're the majority and never worry about being discriminated against for being straight. GLBT folks are the minority (although at least 10% of the population) and are constantly concerned about hard-won rights being stripped away, and being discriminated against in employment and housing where that's still legal.
A friend posted this from his employer's website and I found it worth sharing: