Wednesday, August 15, 2018

Family visit

We're expecting some of our family to visit later this week.

Spouse's sister, son, daughter, and granddaughter are arriving Thurs evening.  Spouse's sister's husband and other son are arriving Fri night, and all are staying through Sun.

If the weather is good they'll probably go to the beach, but they may just decide to just hang out at home.  Friday's forecast is 92 degrees with a 30% chance of thunderstorms, and Saturday's forecast is for 86 degrees and a 40% chance of thunderstorms.

Regardless of what they do, I'm sure we'll have a fun time visiting.  I have to work Fri & Sat but will be with them in the evenings and on Sun.
Our brother-in-law and 2 nephews, Christmas 2017

Monday, August 13, 2018

Three Identical Strangers

I recently saw the documentary "Three Identical Strangers", about triplets who discover each other at age 19.  
Each triplet was adopted by a different family in upstate NY who had no knowledge that their baby was a triplet.  One brother goes to a small college where he knows no one, but is recognized by returning students.  He's then introduced to the young man they thought he was, who turns out to be his identical twin brother.

This amazing reunion makes the papers and is noticed by the mother of a 3rd young man who looks exactly like the twins in the newspaper.  The three young men discover they are triplets and find they share many seemingly hard-wired personality traits and preferences.

But the film is far from being a sweet reunion story.  The adopted parents of the three triplets soon began to seek answers to many questions, the most pertinent being why they weren't informed their babies had siblings, yet alone, identical triplets.  The adoption agency said the triplets were split up because it was unlikely someone would adopt 3 infants, but little other info is given them.

Years later a writer researching twins discovers the triplets' separation as well as the intentional separation of several other sets of twins by the same adoption agency.  Little is known about the reason(s) for these separations other than the study of identical twins' and triplets' development in different socio-economic households.  The psychologist's study was never published and all the data was sealed until 2066 when all the researchers and uninformed participants are deceased.

Its a very interesting documentary which raises lots of ethical questions, and wants to weigh in on the 'nature versus nurture' question.

Friday, August 10, 2018

New sink & faucet

So, this year for his birthday Spouse wanted a new single-basin kitchen sink and a new faucet.  I know it sounds weird, but that's what he wanted.

The guys came to install them and started with the faucet, removing the old one and installing the new one.  Next came they removed the sink, but when they went to install the new one, it didn't fit.

You see, we're switching from a double-basin to a single-basin, and although you'd think the sizes would be standard, they're not.  The single-basin sink we picked out wasn't wide enough, so the guys had to re-install the old sink, and I had to try and find one that was a little wider.

Unfortunately the store where the ill-fitting sink was purchased (Lowe's) didn't have one the correct size in stock.  Special ordering it would take at least 10 days.

So I went online to Amazon.  In no time flat I found one the right size, less expensive than the one that got returned, and since it was Prime it arrived in 2 days with no shipping charge.

A couple days later the guys came back and swapped out the old sink with the new one.  
Good bye old double-basin sink and faucet!

Hello new single-basin sink and faucet!
Happy birthday, Spouse!!

Monday, August 06, 2018

National Underwear Day

Yesterday was National Underwear Day

Its a made-up holiday created by Freshpair, a company that sells underwear.  No surprise there.

But the underwear industry has really grown in the last 40 years.  For men the choices used to be boxers or briefs.  Usually cotton.  Usually white for briefs, and solid or benign prints for boxers.

Nowadays there are literally hundreds of sellers of men's underwear, each with lots of varieties.  Boxers, briefs, boxer-briefs, bikinis, string bikinis, thongs, jocks.  In every color and color combination you could want.  Fashion underwear is a multi-billion dollar per year industry.

Then there's all the 'novelty' and fetish underwear.  Cotton, polyester, nylon, mesh, spandex, latex, lycra, and leather.

Things have certainly changed over the years, so maybe there's a real reason now to celebrate National Underwear Day.

How will YOU be celebrating?

Friday, August 03, 2018


Ugh... I've got to figure out how to lose weight and still eat delicious food.

Wednesday, August 01, 2018

'Green' update

A few weeks ago I wrote this post about many restaurants no longer providing plastic straws with beverages.  Since then I've been to a couple places that have switched over to more earth-friendly paper straws, and a couple places who only give plastic straws upon request.

Then this week I saw this Facebook meme which combined this topic with another close to my heart: gun control.
While this is initially funny, it does draw the striking contrast between how easy it was to change behaviors related to plastic straws versus the nearly impossible feat it will be to change behaviors related to gun control, thanks to the wealthy NRA and greedy politicians who accept its bribes.

Monday, July 30, 2018


Its Monday AND its raining.  We could use the rain, but it always makes it harder to get motivated to get things done on a rainy Monday.

So here's a little something to distract you:

I'm in love with this man.  He's perfect.

I love his handsome face with a bit of scruff.  

I love his haircut.  

I love his muscular arms and perfectly rounded pecs.

I love his bubble butt and bulging speedo.

What do YOU think?

Friday, July 27, 2018


I know I posted this before but its so damn funny I'm sharing it again.

Have a great weekend!

Wednesday, July 25, 2018

Comments and emails

Recently I noticed that I'm no longer getting emails from Blogger when someone comments on my posts.  

At 1st I thought no one was commenting, but when I logged into Blogger I could see the comments were there.  But for some reason, I'm no longer getting emails notifying me of the comments.

I revisited my Blogger settings page and confirmed my email address was still correct.  I even removed it and added it back in, but it didn't fix the problem.

I checked the spam folder in my email to see if I'd accidentally made the sending email address look like spam, but nothing was there.

Has anyone else noticed this?

Does anyone have any idea how to restore the emails when someone comments?

Any assistance would be appreciated!

Monday, July 23, 2018


...and the livin' is easy.
My boys relaxing and enjoying the sites and smells of the yard from the comfort of the porch yesterday.

Friday, July 20, 2018

Happy birthday!

Today is Spouse's birthday.

As usual, there will be a floral arrangement waiting for him when he gets to work today.  He loves flowers and I love sending them to his office, which gets him lots of attention.  Many of his female colleagues say they're jealous of how loved and well-treated he is.  Knowing this makes me smile.

Tonight we're going to dinner with Steven & Thad to a restaurant we've never been to before.  Its not new, and its been highly recommended by people I know.  I'm not sure why we haven't been before, but I'm hoping for a great meal.

For a change he told me what he wanted for his birthday this year:  a new kitchen sink and faucet!

We currently have a 2-basin sink which be both find annoying, so I'm going to have it replaced with a single-basin sink that's the same size. This will be much more practical.  We're also replacing our existing faucet which is starting to drip with a new one.  Spouse wants a goose-neck style so that's what we're getting.  I've already picked both out and confirmed they were in stock so I'm just waiting for the contractor to give me the date.

After 23 birthdays together there's only so many surprise gifts you can come up with, so I was actually really happy he told me what he really wanted.

Monday, July 16, 2018

Monday message

Here's my inspirational message for the week:

Who am I trying to kid?  Here's my REAL message for the week:

I hope your week goes well!

Wednesday, July 11, 2018

MY Independence day

Last Wed was July 4th or Independence Day.  I didn't have time to write what I really wanted to write then, so I'm writing it now.

July 4th is commonly known as Independence Day, where Americans celebrate their independence from Great Britain.  But the week following July 4th is special to me as I think back to MY independence from a religion that controlled my life.

I was raised in the Jehovah's Witness religion, a separatist religion that believes they are the only ones with the TRUE religion.  One of their many unusual teachings is that being gay is a choice and a 'learned behavior'.  Sometime in my 20s I realized that this belief wasn't true.  I'd known I was gay since I was a kid but didn't know any other gay people, so from whom could I have 'learned' this?  

Once I understood the Jehovah's Witness religion was wrong about that teaching I became suspicious of many other teachings with which I was never comfortable, such as shunning.  JWs are taught to shun those who leave the religion, even family members.  They claim they do this to protect the congregation from the sin of the one being shunned, but I always thought it seemed like emotional blackmail to require relatives to shun their family.

On Sat, July 3, 1993, 25 years ago, I met a man at a gay bar who would become my boyfriend. We spent the long, holiday weekend together and I decided then that I would not return to the JW church.

Even though I knew this decision would eventually result in being shunned by my family and friends.

The week following July 4th 25 years ago was glorious as I felt a new sense of freedom I'd never experienced before, and as I spent time with my new boyfriend.

And then came the gut-wrenching meeting with my family where I told them I was gay, I was leaving the JW religion, and that I understood I would be shunned and likely not see or hear from them again. They tried to talk me out of it but my mind was made up.  Everyone cried.

But as hard as it was to do that, I knew it was the right thing for me, and I felt a sense of relief after it was over.  I simply HAD to start becoming my authentic self.

So, 25 years ago, just after Independence Day, was MY independence day.

If interested, you can read my full coming out story here: part I, part II, part III, part IV, part V.

Monday, July 09, 2018

Weekend recap

On Sat I worked (as usual) but didn't have any showings scheduled so I volunteered to drive the company bus for a couple hours, providing shuttle transportation to/from a local arts festival.  People were very nice and appreciative of the free shuttle service and it gave me a little something different to do since I had no appointments.

That evening we had a simple/easy dinner out with Steven & Thad, then came home and relaxed a little before heading into town to perform in the Legends show as Boy George.  I love doing that Legend because the songs are so good and his presence is unmistakable. The place was really full and the crowd was really 'into' the show!  Immediately afterward we go out into the audience for 'meet and greet' time, and I got several requests for photos and had several conversations with folks who complimented me on my performance.  My buddies Jason & Kevin were there too so I spent a little time chatting with them as well. It was a really fun night!

When I got home about 11:45 Spouse was watching 'Justice League' so I grabbed a big glass of water and watched it with him.  I can never come home from a show and go right to bed; I need some time to settle down.  

Since we went to bed so late we didn't get up until 9:30 Sun morning.  We picked up wraps and chips and headed to the beach, arriving just before noon.  Believe it or not this was our 1st beach day this season!  May was very rainy and cool, and then in June it seemed like every Sun it was overcast, so this was our 1st opportunity to go.  It was glorious!!  The oppressive humidity we've had for the last 2 weeks broke and there was a lovely breeze blowing.  

The.  Perfect.  Beach.  Day.

I didn't get the laundry done or the dogs bathed as I'd planned, but it was worth it to take advantage of such a pretty day.  That evening we had dinner with Steven & Thad and then stopped at the grocery store on the way home.

A pretty decent weekend.

Friday, July 06, 2018

Nervous tick

Last Sat I was showing homes to new clients and we looked at a home that was bank-owned.  "Bank-owned" is a nice way of saying it was a foreclosure.  Since no one has lived there in a while the yard has not been maintained.  Banks will occasionally pay someone to mow if they get a letter from the HOA saying the grass is too high, but in this case the home was not within an HOA so the grass had not been cut in a while.

While still showing homes I noticed a tick on calf so I removed it with a tissue.  Of course the rest of the day I was nervous and kept checking my legs and arms every time I thought I felt something.  A few hours later when I got home and was changing my clothes I found another tick on my upper thigh!  I removed that one too, then stripped and made Spouse check me for any additional ticks.  Fortunately he didn't find any others.

Then on Mon I was showing homes to 2 nurses so I asked them if there was any kind of after-care I should do after finding 2 ticks on me.  They suggested seeing my doctor for a Lymes disease test, so I got an appointment for Tues afternoon.  My doctor said the Lymes test is not conclusive, and that a negative test result wouldn't mean I didn't have Lymes.  He said people have tested negative but then developed Lymes weeks/months later.  Instead of the test, he suggested I just go ahead and take the special antibiotic they would prescribe if I had Lymes disease.  This kind of made sense to me, to treat as if I had it just to be on the safe side.

So now I'm taking the antibiotic twice a day for 21 days, just to be sure I don't develop Lymes disease or any other tick-borne illness.