along with the caption: "Ooops! Looks like the architect didn't consider the shadow this fence would make." This gave me a laugh.Wednesday, November 11, 2009
Short work week
along with the caption: "Ooops! Looks like the architect didn't consider the shadow this fence would make." This gave me a laugh.Tuesday, November 10, 2009
I believe
- a birth certificate shows that we were born, a death certificate shows that we died, but pictures show that we lived!
- just because two people argue, it doesn't mean they don't love each other. And just because they don't argue, it doesn't mean they do.
- we don't have to change friends if we understand that friends change.
- no matter how good a friend is, they're going to hurt you every once in a while and you must forgive them for that.
- true friendship continues to grow, even over the longest distance. Same goes for true love.
- you can do something in an instant that will give you heartache for a lifetime.
- it can take a long time to become the person we want to be.
- you should always leave loved ones with loving words. You never know when it may be the last time you see them.
- you can keep going long after you think you can't.
- we are responsible for what we do, no matter how we feel.
- either you control your attitude, or it controls you.
- heroes are the people who do what has to be done when it needs to be done, regardless of the consequences.
- money is a lousy way of keeping score.
- sometimes the people you expect to kick you when you're down will be the ones to help you get back up.
- when I'm angry I sometimes have the right to be angry, but that doesn't give me the right to be cruel.
- maturity has more to do with what types of experiences you've had and what you've learned from them and less to do with how many birthdays you've celebrated.
- it isn't always enough to be forgiven by others. Sometimes you have to learn to forgive yourself.
- no matter how bad your heart is broken, the world doesn't stop for your grief.
- our background and circumstances may have influenced who we are, but we are responsible for who we become.
- two people can look at the exact same thing and see something totally different.
- your life can be changed in a matter of hours by people who don't even know you.
- even when you think you have no more to give, when a friend cries out to you, you will find the strength to help.
- credentials on the wall do not make you a decent human being.
- the happiest people don't necessarily have the best of everything; they just make the best of everything they have.
- 'The will of God will never take you where the Grace of God will not protect you'
Author unknown - edited by me
Crush du Jour: Thomaz Oliviera
Monday, November 09, 2009
Weekend highlights
On Sat Spouse went for his personal trainer appointment and I caught up on emails and ordered my holiday return address labels. As I've mentioned before, I love to send holiday cards - I have a routine for writing/addressing them - so I like to use special holiday return address labels. Similar to last year, I ordered two types. I ordered this beachy Christmas one again, since I liked it so much last year.
Its just a subtle reminder to folks that it sometimes snows at the beach. I also ordered this snowflake design for 'holiday' cards going out to my non-Christian friends.
Friday, November 06, 2009
Friday fragments
Last Sun afternoon I moved my clothes and shoes into the new closet/dressing room. It was so exciting! Spouse decided not to move his yet, since we do not have any covering on the bathroom windows. As long as I've known him he's been convinced that legions of people are standing out on the street looking up and into the windows at him, despite the fact that we have no neighbors on the front of our house where the bathroom windows are located.
Mon morning I had my 1st shower in the new shower room, and it was delightful! Its so roomy and spacious I kinda felt like I was showering outdoors. It felt a little naughty, and I liked it!
In case you're still obsessing over the H1N1 or other flu strains, here's a funny video with a flu treatment endorsed by celebrities.
Tonight we'll have dinner with 'the usual suspects' and tomorrow night we'll re-join our movie group, whom we've missed for the last 2 months.
Hope everyone has a fab weekend!
Crush du Jour: Andre Bland
Thursday, November 05, 2009
Business trip
I left Tues morning and returned Wed night. It takes about 4 1/2 hours by car each way, if you drive a little fast like I do. It would take even longer if I flew, since I am 2 hours drive to the nearest airport.
I used to hate spending time in the Richmond office. The old management's bad energy affected everyone and it was so unpleasant to be around all that negativity. But fortunately the old management was kicked out, and so was their bad energy. Its like visiting a different office now, and I don't mind it at all.
I checked into renting a car and found that it would be cheaper to do that than expensing the mileage to drive my own car. Go figure! The small car rental office didn't have the intermediate size car I'd reserved so they upgraded me to the luxury class, so I got a fully loaded 2009 Nissan Maxima that looked exactly like this:

I arrived at the office at 1:30 and worked until 4:00. Then I was in a meeting from 4:00-6:00, followed by a team-building happy hour and then dinner which lasted until 10:00. The next day I was in back-to-back meetings from 8:30-4:00, with hardly any time to check email. I left at 4:00 and got home at 8:30. I'd brought an extra 1/2 of a sandwich and a cookie that were left over from lunch, and ate them in the car on the way home so I wouldn't have to stop.
It was a productive trip and it was nice to see my colleagues again. Since all of us work remotely we only see each other in person once a year, usually.
Wednesday, November 04, 2009
Maine approves of discrimination
Maine Voters Repeal Law Allowing Gay Marriage
By Abby Goodnough, NY Times
In a stinging setback for the national gay-rights movement, Maine voters narrowly decided to repeal the state’s new law allowing same-sex marriage.
With 87% of precincts reporting early this morning, 53% of voters had approved the repeal, ending an expensive and emotional fight that was closely watched around the country as a referendum on the national gay-marriage movement. Polls had suggested a much closer race.
With the repeal, Maine became the 31st state to reject same-sex marriage at the ballot box. Five other states - Massachusetts, Connecticut, Iowa, New Hampshire and Vermont - have legalized same-sex marriage, but only through court rulings and legislative action.
The Maine vote was particularly discouraging for gay-rights groups because it took place in New England, the region that has been the most open to same-sex marriage, and because opponents of the repeal had far outspent backers. Gov. John Baldacci, a Democrat, had enthusiastically backed the state law allowing gay marriage, passed by the legislature in May but put on hold until the referendum took place.
The repeal came a year after California voters banned same-sex marriage with a constitutional amendment. Preliminary results showed strong opposition to the repeal in Portland, the state’s biggest city, but not enough to counter widespread support in more conservative regions to the north.
Throughout the bitter campaign, supporters of same sex marriage had stressed that gay couples deserve equal treatment under the law, banking on Maine’s reputation as a “live and let live” state. Opponents repeatedly warned voters that if gays were allowed to marry, it would be taught in the public schools, a tactic that proved effective in CA last year.
The Catholic Church was a leading supporter of the repeal campaign, even asking parishes to pass a second collection plate at Sunday mass to help the cause. The National Organization for Marriage also contributed heavily to the repeal campaign; it is under investigation by Maine’s ethics commission for possibly flouting state campaign finance laws by refusing to reveal its donors.
Crush du Jour: Juan Carlos Garcia
Tuesday, November 03, 2009
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Monday, November 02, 2009
Surreal
having the disorienting, hallucinatory quality of a dream; unreal; fantastic
'Surreal' is the perfect word to describe the experience of attending my cousin's wedding on Sat.
Spouse & I picked up my aunt Mary on our way to the wedding, which was held at a country club. The itinerary called for a 30-minute ceremony, followed by cocktail hour on the veranda, followed by the dinner/reception.
As we entered the foyer Spouse whispered "I see your parents". I could feel my heart rate increase immediately. As aunt Mary finished signing the guest book my mother greeted her with a hug and they began to chat a bit. In the meantime I quickly wrote mine and Spouse's names in the guestbook and then busied myself with asking the young woman handing out programs where the ceremony was being held. She pointed to the area and Spouse & I walked that way immediately.
We ran into a couple named Fran & Dolph who were old family friends and stopped to chat with them for several minutes. Before we could get to the safety of our seats, I saw 3 of my cousins (brothers of the bride) and we greeted each other and chatted for a few minutes. Next thing I knew, an usher was asking us to take our seats as the wedding was to begin shortly. We caught up with aunt Mary at the entrance to the ceremony room and the 3 of us took seats on the bride's side, 2 rows behind my parents and my middle sister and her husband.
Fear of rejection kept me from daring to make eye contact with them, so I pretended to adjust my camera for several minutes, then read the entire wedding program twice over. Finally the music changed and the procession began.
My cousin was stunningly beautiful and radiant. As she and her fiance repeated their vows I secretly wished it were me and Spouse taking wedding vows.
After the ceremony ended everyone was escorted to the veranda while the club employees moved the chairs from the ceremony room to the tables in the dining/reception room. Mary, Spouse & I had lovely passed hors d'oeuvres as we waited for the bar line to subside. My cousin Ashley's mother-in-law agreed to take a picture of us.
Mary was talking with some people I didn't know so Spouse suggested I get in the bar line and bring us back drinks, so I did. After introducing myself to two young women in front me in line, I was caught off-guard when my parents appeared, seemingly out of nowhere, drinks in hand. I had not seen them at the bar ahead of me.
After dinner, as the traditional father/daughter dance and bouquet toss occurred, my sister found her way over to our table to hug me again and tell me how much she'd missed me. And while I was happy with such a warm reception from her and my parents, a tiny voice inside me wanted to banish all the happiness and shout at them in anger. I knew their religious beliefs forbid associating with me and others who leave or are kicked out of the religion, and their strict adherence to that was never a surprise to me. But as the hugs and smiles kept coming, part of me wanted to shake them by the shoulders and say "This is how things could be for us all the time!!!"
The wedding cake, in the shape of the Eiffel Tower where the happy couple became engaged, was cut and served.
Crush du Jour: Aurelio Marks
Saturday, October 31, 2009
Addition update - week 20
This is the last installment of the addition updates, as this week the addition was finished!
Mon: Mike the builder came for a mini walk-thru to check for any missing final touches. He also put the hooks on the shelf towers.
Wed: Mike the builder sent over a cleaning crew since there was so much construction dust. They did not clean the entire house, but did more than 1/2 of it, which was really helpful. The masonry crew began breaking up the original stamped concrete driveway. They got about 1/3 of it done.
Thurs: Jay fixed one of the tub handles which the cleaning crew found to be loose. He & Junior removed the last of the tools from the garage.
From the master bedroom looking into the bathroom:
Crush du Jour: Peter Pagan

Friday, October 30, 2009
Friday fragments
Spouse unexpectedly took the day off today. He slept in, we went to lunch together, and now he's running some errands. Work is rather slow for him right now, so it was a good day to take off.
I saw this and laughed out loud:
My friend Jared supplied me with this photo:
along with his caption "I didn't know Jesus was into that kind of thing." Don't you just love clever people?
Although Halloween is supposed to be a time for scary fun, it can be plain old scary if you are the parent of an effeminate young boy. Fortunately, The Onion has some helpful masculine costume suggestions! Check it out here.
Thursday, October 29, 2009
Memories of Halloweens past
So instead of doing anything for Halloween this year, I am just going to relive some fun memories from Halloweens past.
This is me & Spouse last year dressed as Barney Rubble and Fred Flintstone. We wore these costumes to 2 different Halloween parties last year. (All photos on this page may be clicked to enlarge.)
The Barney and Fred costume idea was Spouse's. I could have thought of at least 100 other (read: better) costume ideas, but acquiesced since I knew Spouse would be more apt to actually participate if he were happy and comfortable in his costume. We used fleece throws from Wal-Mart, sewn with the help of our friend Bugsy, and I used iron-on patches for the spots on Fred's tunic. At the party people only seemed to 'get' my costume if I was standing with Spouse. Alone my costume was ambiguous, and I was asked if I were a monk and John the Baptist. So I tried to stand and sit near Spouse the rest of the time.Here's a photo of my Halloween 2006 costume, sandwiched between Richard Simmons and the Bride of Frankenstein.
The scary part of it is that I put together the Boy George costume completely from clothing Spouse & I already owned! The only thing I bought was the wig and the stick-on numbers. I won 1st runner up in a costume contest at Freddie's Beach Bar.Back in 1996 I talked 5 of my female co-workers into dressing up with me as The Village People. I'm the Cowboy on the right. The other 5 are females! Check out the Leatherman with the huge mustache.
Wednesday, October 28, 2009
Flu prevention
, I thought I'd share these flu prevention tips:5. Get lots of fresh air. Open doors and windows whenever possible.
Consider your Doctor's approach: When you go for a flu shot, what do they do first? Clean your arm with alcohol because alcohol kills germs. So, do what I do...
1. Walk briskly to the liquor store (exercise)
2. Put a lime wedge in your Corona (fruit)
3. Put a celery stalk in your Bloody Mary (veggies)
4. Drink outdoors at a patio bar (fresh air)
5. Tell jokes and laugh (eliminate stress)
6. Then pass out (rest)
The way I see it, if you keep your alcohol level up, flu germs can't get you!

Crush du Jour: Siomon Dexter

Tuesday, October 27, 2009
Too much to ask
Recently I mentioned that Spouse & I are looking for a housekeeper to come every other week. We don't want to spend our evenings and weekends cleaning, especially with all the house guests we have.
So I sent an email out to my local friends, asking if anyone could recommend a good, reliable, reasonably priced housekeeper. I'd rather use a recommended resource than calling one of those maid services that sends a different person every time. I got several recommendations from my friends, which made me happy.
Then I set about contacting the recommended people. To let them know how I got their name and number, I started each call or voice mail message like this:
"Hi, my name is Mark in DE and I got your name from Mutual Friend. I'm interested in getting a quote for housekeeping, every two weeks. Please give me a call at..."
Now, you may recall that I written several times about living in a small town with no real professional employment options. People who live here are either retired, work from home like me, work in a restaurant or retail store, or own their own business. I would think that housekeepers (and others) who own their own business would jump at calls like mine, especially in these 'challenging economic times'. Its harder for business owners to get new clients in small towns.
But do you think I've been overwhelmed by the responses to my calls and voice messages? Hardly!
One guy said he has enough work to keep him busy and really couldn't take on any new clients. Surprising, but fair enough.
One woman told me she didn't have enough clients to 'make it work' so she went back to work full-time doing something else. Understandable.
After listing the rooms for her, one woman told me my "house is too big". Really? Its not exactly Buckingham Palace or the White House.
Another guy seemed less than grateful at the prospect of having me as a possible new client. He said he would call me in 2-3 days and make an appointment to come over. That was a week ago.
Two others never returned the messages I left for them.
Today a guy came to give me an estimate. We walked through the house together and he explained what they would do in each room. I must admit that if they do everything he claims, it would be very thorough. But I nearly choked when he told me with a straight face that it would be $200. per cleaning. Yes, we have a dog and a cat but they sleep 22 out of 24 hours a day. Its not like we have any 4 dirty, smelly, grimy children running amok here.
I'm perplexed. Really, is it really too much to ask for a good, reliable, affordable housekeeper?
Is it too much to ask that someone returns my call?
Crush du Jour: Robert Sepulveda
Monday, October 26, 2009
NYC highlights
On Fri it was as if we'd woken up in a different month. It was overcast, quite chilly, and windy. The temperature literally dropped 20 degrees overnight. Dressed in jeans, long sleeves, and jackets we made our way to the tip of Manhattan to visit the Cloisters.
Since we were out late the night before, we enjoyed a nice, leisurely Sat morning with Lisa. It was raining off and on, but it was much warmer than Fri. Umbrellas in hand, we eventually made our way to Chinatown and met up with David, Ginger, and Howard for lunch at the Excellent Dumpling House, which truly lives up to its name. We stuffed ourselves with all kinds of dim sum, and Spouse & I even had the audacity to order entrees! Next we walked over to the famous Pearl River Mart, followed by Jack's $.99 store, both of which were real experiences! We hopped the train back to Queens to shower, nap, and chat with Lisa. Then the 3 of us headed to Chelsea for a 25th anniversary party for Lisa's friend Bobby and his partner Bruce. It was nice. Our plan was to meet up with David, Ginger, and Howard at Escuilita to see Lady Bunny, but this was cancelled due to the yucky weather and the general lack of Dust Bunny turn out. So Lisa, Spouse & I had a late night snack (read: meal) at Pete's Grill, then returned to Lisa's and talked until 1:30.
Sun morning Lisa made omelets and biscuits for breakfast, we packed up our suitcase and took the train to meet the BoltBus at noon. Unfortunately the bus wasn't scheduled to come until 12:30 (I looked at the boarding pass wrong) so we had to stand and wait and extra 1/2 hour on top of the extra time we'd allowed. But we got home by 5:00 and had a relaxing night of TV watching before going to bed.
Crush du Jour: George Vidanov
Saturday, October 24, 2009
Addition update - week 19
I'm missing all the photos taken before our trip to NYC because Spouse accidentally deleted them. I tried to fill in with photos taken after we returned home.
Mon: All the nail holes in the baseboards and chair rail molding were filled, sanded, and painted with top coat of white paint.
Tues: The dumpster was hauled away. All the trim and doors received a final coat of white paint. The closet built-ins were started, beginning with the rod for hanging clothes, then the shelf towers were constructed.
Wed: The other shelf tower was installed, as well as the shelf on the right wall below. Hooks for belts.
The register covers were installed throughout the bathroom and closet/dressing room.
Two towel rings were installed, one at either end of the vanity, for hand towels.
The double towel bar for bath towels was re-installed. It was re-used from the previous bathroom.
Thurs: The stained beadboard panels were attached to the tub apron. (They can be removed to access the tub mechanicals.)The clear glass shower door was installed.
The closet built-ins were completed. There is a shelf tower on either end for jeans, shorts, sweaters, and any other folded items, and spanning the full length of the long wall is a rod for hanging clothes since we hang t-shirts as well as polo-style and button-ups, a shelf above the hanging rod for addition folded items, and a shelf below the hanging rod for shoes.
Fri: A section of railing was re-installed to complete the front porch. The light fixture was installed in the bathroom (in front of the shower and closet doors).The door knobs and striker plates were installed.
The toilet paper holder was re-installed. It was re-used from the previous bathroom.
Glass mosaic tile was applied between the mirror and the backsplash. This brings the mosaic tile from the shower and tub to the vanity, uniting these three elements.
Friday, October 23, 2009
Friday fragments
Its day 2 of our NYC trip and our plan is to visit the Cloisters today. I've heard its amazing.
The garage/bathroom/closet/dressing room addition should be finished when we get back from NYC. Well, not completely finished since the old driveway and sidewalk won't be poured yet, but practically finished. I suspect we will sleep in our bedroom when we return Sun night, and use the bathroom once its cleaned. I am practically GIDDY over the idea of moving our clothes and shoes from 3 separate closets into our new closet/dressing room!
Next Tues a guy is coming to give us a quote for regular housecleaning every other week. We had a housekeeper when we lived in VA and we felt it was a worthy expense, but when we moved here we just couldn't afford it. But things have changed and now we can afford it. We do not want to spend our evenings and/or weekends cleaning. We are active people who have lots of houseguests. Its time to get a housekeeper again. I hope we like this guy who's coming on Tues.
Have you seen those new Purex 3-in-1 laundry sheets? Its a sheet that contains detergent, fabric softener, and anti-static you toss in the washer AND dryer.
Thursday, October 22, 2009
Off to NYC
As we've done before, we will drive to Cherry Hill NJ where we will board the BoltBus. Its cheap and comfortable, and will drop us off right by Penn Station. If interested in photos or our agenda from past NYC trips, click here and here (May 2009) and here (Oct 2008).
We will be staying in the home of our fab friend Lisa again, in Sunnyside Queens. Its so convenient, only 25 minutes from Penn Station to her doorstep. We're looking forward to having dinner with Lisa and her friend Howard on Thurs evening. She has talked about Howard several times and he seems like our kind of guy.
We are planning to tour the Cloisters on Fri during the day, meet up with an old high school friend of mine for drinks/dinner in the evening, then join the other Dust Bunnies later that night.
Sat we will do some sightseeing, including Pearl River Mart and Chinatown during the day, then meet up with the Dust Bunnies again for more cocktails and hijinx. If you are reading this and will be in NYC this Sat night, consider joining us! Sun we'll have a good, hearty breakfast at Pete's Grill before catching the bus home.
Spouse doesn't like me to over-schedule our trips so we feel free to do what we want, as opposed to feeling like we have to do what's on the schedule. We travel well together so I'm sure we will have a great time.
Crush du Jour: Andre Coelho
Wednesday, October 21, 2009
Yoga
I showed up the following week to find an empty classroom. When I inquired at the desk, I was informed they had not yet found anyone to lead the class. I checked back several more times over the following weeks but was told the same.
A friend of mine recently joined the same gym and told me he was interested in the yoga class. Sure enough, 6 months later the gym had finally found someone to lead the yoga class again.
So I went last night. Wow... it was a real work out. The original class was an hour long and had more beginners like me, including several men. This new class is an hour and a half long and had 2 experienced ladies, 1 inexperienced lady, and me.
Since yoga is about relaxation and stretching, I am always surprised how physically demanding it is. It requires a lot of strength to hold some of those positions. The stretching some people can do simply amazes me. But I am sure I will become more flexible as I continue taking the class each week.
I made it through the entire thing without needing to stop and rest, which is just short of a miracle, although the instructor said it was fine to do so. Afterward I had dinner and watched TV with Spouse for a while, and when I got up from the sofa to go to bed, I could already feel it in my muscles. I took 2 ibuprofen before going to bed, which I believe really helped reduce my soreness today.
Anyone else do yoga?
Crush du Jour: Philip Fusco
Tuesday, October 20, 2009
Double standard
I'd like to highlight a few things about this situation for you to consider:
- It was reported on CNN that the Heenes pitched a reality show idea to the cable station TLC which was rejected.
- The parents' "hoax" was actually a lie and a fraud for which they will likely face legal charges.
- They forced their 3 children to participate in this fraud and set a terrible parental example for them.
- Their fraud cost the police and other authorities considerable time and money, and resulted in a temporary diverting of airline traffic.
- The Heene family participated in an episode of a reality show called "Wife Swap" where two very different families live for some period of time with the other family's wife/mother while camera crews film the resulting tension and family discord.
- Richard Heene refers to himself as a meteorologist, although he possesses nothing more than a high school education.
- Heene sometimes brings the family along when he chases storms, endangering himself and his family.
- A former colleague described Heene as hyperactive, driven by fame and self-promotion.
- According to the New York Post, Heene is convinced that he was once abducted by extraterrestrials, and that Armageddon will arrive in 2012.
- A 911 call from the Heene's home earlier this year raised suspicions of possible domestic violence against Mrs. Heene. During the "balloon boy" incident authorities spoke at length with her about domestic violence as well as the children's safety.
- One can only imagine the emotional trauma inflicted upon the Heene children by their obviously unsteady parents.
Where are the Heene children now? At home with their parents. Sheriff Jim Alderden says the children remain in the home with the parents because authorities "didn't have enough that would allow us or Child Protection Services to physically take the kids."
Really? Not even temporarily, until the parents were either charged or exonerated? Does the list above sound like the description of healthy, fit parents to you? I think not.
But here's the real kicker: Imagine how different the situation would be if Richard Heene were gay and parenting these 3 children. I'd be willing to bet a week's salary that the sheriff and/or Child Protective Services would have removed the children from the home immediately if Keene were gay.
Isn't it ironic that in many states stable gays and lesbians can not be foster parents or adopt children, solely based on their sexual orientation, while the Heenes and others can endanger their children's safety, involve them in illegal activities, inflict emotional trauma, and set an example of bad choices and illegal behavior?
What a sickening double standard.
Monday, October 19, 2009
Weekend highlights
Sat morning I baked a sausage/egg/cheese casserole for breakfast while Spouse was at his personal trainer appointment. We had the casserole along with zucchini bread Clark had made and orange/cranberry scones that James had made and talked until early afternoon. It was rainy and yucky outside but a few of the guys decided to do some shopping. I stayed home to upload my photos and write about the week's addition progress. That afternoon we had cocktails and snacks, then went to dinner at Eden in Rehoboth Beach, which everyone really liked. I had an amazing entree of seared scallops with linguini and butternut squash cream sauce. Since it was Autumn Jazz Festival there was a jazz combo playing. When we got home we watched "Drop Dead Gorgeous" which everyone really enjoyed, and "Boy's Life 5" shorts, which were somewhat enjoyable.
Sun morning we had coffee, zucchini bread and scones to tide us over until brunch. We had an 11am reservation for Rigby's Sun Jazz Brunch, featuring local songstress Holly Lane. I had shrimp and grits, and all 6 of us had the curried acorn squash soup which was amazing! Everyone really enjoyed the food and entertainment. Ron & James left for home directly from brunch, and Mike & Clark left shortly after we returned home. I spent the afternoon reading the film synopsis and marking the films I want to see at next month's Rehoboth Beach Independent Film Festival while Spouse napped and computed. Later we had delicious turkey and vegetable soup at Steven & Thad's and visited with them for a while. It was the perfect way to wind up a lovely weekend with friends!
Crush du Jour: Butch Grand
Saturday, October 17, 2009
Addition update - week 18
There was a flurry of activity and progress this week! An end is in sight! As always, click the photos to enlarge them.
Mon: The 16"x16" ceramic floor tile was set. It is a light sand color, similar to travertine, but a fraction of the cost of travertine.
Friday, October 16, 2009
Friday fragments
Pouncer is continuing to respond well to the antibiotic injection he received last week. His eating and activity level are back to normal and his wheezing is almost gone.
The Rehoboth Beach Independent Film Festival is just a month away, and the catalog of films arrived last weekend. Film titles and descriptions are also available online. I can hardly wait! If you'd like to read my synopsis of past RBIFF screenings, click the "RB Indie Film Festival" tag on the lower left side of this screen, then add a few to your Netflix queue.
I think this video is great! Oddly, it makes me laugh and feel aroused at the same time.
Our longtime friends from VA Ron & James and Mike & Clark arrive this evening for their annual weekend with us. We scheduled this weekend months ago when we thought our addition would be complete and our house would be all put back together. We provided them with 'fair disclosure' and they decided to come anyway. Although the forecast is for chilly, rainy, windy weather, it should be a wonderful weekend of talking, laughing, and catching up. The Autumn Jazz Festival is also going on this weekend, and we are planning to catch a Sunday Jazz Brunch.
My friend Dick sent me this article which I found very interesting. The judge keeps asking the defenders of the gay marriage ban to "explain how allowing gay couples to wed threatens conventional unions". This makes so much sense! I applaud this judge and hope others will follow this lead in these cases.
What is it with stores and people rushing the holidays? Large department stores take down the Christmas decorations and then dress the mannequins in swimsuits. Try to find a bathing suit on 4th of July and you'll find racks and racks of winter coats instead. And what about people who send around Christmas emails when Halloween hasn't arrived yet? Seriously, what's up with that? Can we please not rush the holidays?
Thurs evening we met Steven & Thad and The Bobs for group trivia. I was both optimistic and leary since we came in 1st place 2 weeks in a row. Could we do it again? Well, we did!! 1st place ($25. off our food/beverage tab) for the 3rd week in a row!!
Then I came across this video and can't get it outta my mind! Its been making the rounds on Facebook and I think I've watched it about 687 times. I love the lead guy.
Have a terrific weekend!
Crush du Jour: Alex Castro
Thursday, October 15, 2009
Canadian billboards
Wednesday, October 14, 2009
A family affair
To clarify, this is my cousin on my mother's side of the family; the non-JWs who associate with me. She has been to our house before and we've been out together socially a few times. She knows the deal with me and Spouse.
I spoke to my aunt Mary (my mother's sister) and learned that my cousin requested email addresses from her for my parents and my siblings. This told me that they must have gotten the 'save the date' email too, and were being invited to the wedding.
My initial reaction was that I wouldn't go. My parents and siblings have not spoken to me in over 16 years because I 'came out' and left their judgemental religion. I certainly have no desire to be in the same room with them for several hours at what should be a happy family occasion.
A few weeks later the invitation arrived, addressed to me and Spouse. Not Mark in DE and Guest. No, both of our full names were on the envelope. Props to my cous! I spoke to Mary again and asked if she knew whether or not my parents were going and she said my mother told her she "guessed" they would go. One of my sisters left a comment on the wedding website indicating she and her husband and daughters would be there.
Mary asked me if I was going and I told her the truth: I really didn't know. I shared with her my concerns over the possibility of my parents and siblings being there and the potential for drama and/or discomfort that would create. She reminded me that I have as much a right to attend this family affair as my parents and siblings, and that if I didn't go, I am letting them 'win'.
Her words made sense to me. All these years I have followed the JW rules for disfellowshipped (ex-communicated) people: Do not try to associate with your former friends or family. You are dead to them. Even if you do try, they will not associate with you.
Why? That is their rule, not mine. Why should I worry that my presence at my cousin's wedding might be a problem for my parents and siblings? They are the ones that have to worry about following the JW rules, not me.
My dad's side of the family (mostly JWs) has 3 family get-togethers every year and I have been UNinvited to all of them for the last 16 years because they are JWs and I am not. But since this cousin is on my mom's side, I was invited to her wedding. Maybe I should RSVP 'yes' and see if my parents and siblings would decline!
I talked to Spouse about the situation and the conversation with Mary. He was very understanding and supportive. He basically said 'Do whatever you feel is right. If you want to go, go. If you want me to come with you, I will. If you'd prefer me not to come, I'll stay home'. Hard to argue with that kind of logic.
So I decided we would go. I entered my RSVP on the wedding website, but found it didn't allow you to see who else was invited, so I'm still not sure if my parents are going or not. Regardless, I refuse to let it stop me from being an active part of this family affair.
Mary suggested I contact my cousin and ask if Spouse & I and Mary could be seated at a table together, away from my parents and siblings, in light of 'the situation'. My cousin replied that it was fine, but that she was sorry 'the situation' had not gotten better over the years.
Spouse asked me if I will speak to my parents and/or siblings if they attend, and after sufficient thought, I have decided no. I don't believe they will approach me, and I am not going to approach them. I'm going to enjoy myself and the love I'm sure will be present at this joyous occasion, and my parents/siblings can do whatever they want.
I imagine they will be a bit surprised. People tend to look different after 16 years. I imagine they may also try to remember how long I've been with Spouse, but will then reprimand themselves for even wondering such about 'sinners'. I also imagine that if they are honest and look with unbiased eyes (not likely), they will see an authentic, well-adjusted, happy, loved, gay man and his partner. The son they gave birth to, but abandoned 29 years later. I imagine they might just feel a wee bit guilty.
But that is NOT AT ALL why we're going to this wedding. I don't even know for sure if they'll be there. Truly, we're going because we are invited and because I care about my cousin.
And if my parents/sibling do attend and do, by chance, approach me and say hello?
I will be cordial and polite. Nothing more, nothing less.
Crush du Jour: Chris Campanioni
Tuesday, October 13, 2009
Vintage photos
Monday, October 12, 2009
Weekend highlights
The Newlyweds arrived and joined us for Fri Night Dinner with 'the usual suspects'. Sat morning we lingered over coffee while Spouse had his personal trainer appointment, then the 4 of us had lunch before heading to Bridgeville for the Apple-Scrapple festival. It draws out all the rednecks, but its kind of quaint in a 'small town' kind of way. There food booths where you could purchase various apple and scrapple products, arts and crafts for sale, and a car show.
Once we returned to modern civilization, the 4 of us went for a ride in Big Ella. It was the Newlyweds' 1st time seeing her. Then we had dinner at our fave Italian placed called M. Galluccio. We forced ourselves to go to bed at 11:30 since we had to get up early the next day.
Sun morning Spouse & I were up at 6:00 to get ready for the National Equality March. We joined 40+ other folks on a chartered bus that took us to DC, and I'm so glad we did that instead of driving ourselves. Here is Rusty, Spouse, and Bob on the bus:
Saturday, October 10, 2009
Addition update - week 17
Mon: The last pieces of shower tile were set, and the new storage door got a coat of paint.
Tues: The beadboard wainscoting was installed in both sections of the bathroom (but not in the closet or toilet room) to unify the 'old' and the 'new' parts.
Fri: The radiant heating system was installed, and the setting of the floor tile was started.
Friday, October 09, 2009
Friday fragments
I think mums are beautiful. Their colors are so rich and vibrant!
Seeing them pleases my eye, but also make me sad because they mean summer is practically over and fall is here. I'm basically a summer guy; I love going to the beach, wearing shorts and flip-flops, and top-down driving. So the arrival of fall, although beautiful, saddens me because my favorite things are winding down until next spring.The Newlyweds are arriving this evening! Yes, I know, we just saw them a month ago when we spent our vacation with them in Portland, but I can't help being excited because they are very close friends. They'll join us for Fri Night Dinner with 'the usual suspects' and then we'll have all day tomorrow together. Sun morning they're off to Baltimore for a wedding, and we're off to DC for the National Equality March.
My friend Bob sent me this cartoon, which I find current and poignant.

This guy is amazing!!! And, all his costumes are made of paper. I would love to see him perform in person. Such creativity!
Today I discovered an important omission when I designed the new shower room: I completely forgot to have them build in a small shelf onto which I can prop my foot when washing my lower leg and foot. I mentioned it to Mike the builder today by saying "I've got something for you to think about over the weekend..." I'm not sure if anything can be done about it now, but I'm hoping he will come up with something.
Have a great weekend, ma peeps! Thursday, October 08, 2009
It was my own damn fault
Its Mon, Sept 28th, and I am basking in the afterglow of Big Ella's 1st car show and all the great gay car guys I met. That evening, without a care in the world, I go for my weekly personal trainer session and Rick tells me he got his car inspected and tags renewed that day.
I think to myself 'Hmmm, I wonder when my car is due for inspection and tag renewal...' I hadn't received anything in the mail about it. So after my workout I look at the sticker on my tag and see Sept 30. Yikes, I have just 2 days to get the car inspected and tags renewed! I know the DMV is going to be crazy, but it was my own damn fault for not being aware.
Normally I try to go to the DMV 1st thing in the morning because its the least busy then. I'm in and out in just a few minutes. The worst time to go is noon (lunchtime), at the end of the month, and an hour before they close. But work was busy on Tues so I was unable to go in the morning. On Wed the DMV is open from 12-8pm, and this particular Wed also just happened to be the last day of the month, so it was the only time I could go.
At 5:00 when I finish work I head to the DMV, a 1/2 hour away. The inspection line is crazy long. Literally 30-40 cars in front of me, so I know its going to be awhile. It took a full hour before my car was inspected so I didn't keep the engine running. I started it up to move up the line and turned it off again. Why would I let the engine run for an hour and waste gas?
My car fails for 2 things: a parking light that was out and emissions. Damn!
I go inside the DMV and wait 45 minutes until my number is called, then hand my rejection to the clerk. I'm informed that I can only drive my car to a garage to be fixed and back to the DMV. I want to scream because my car is not in that bad of shape. I see people driving around in 20+ year old jalopies with broken tail lights and hoopdies with missing mirrors, spewing black smoke from their rusted-out mufflers. But my car fails for a parking light and emissions. How do they get away with this?
On the drive back home I think about how much it will cost to have a garage diagnose the reason(s) my car's emissions were too rich and fix it. Then I begin to think that maybe this is the time to get rid of my 15 year old car. Maybe I should just trade it in on something newer, in better condition, and is already inspected.
But then I think about taking money out of savings to pay for the newer car, or (gasp!) making payments for years and years. Neither is a happy thought. Besides, I know its 'old' but I still like my 1994 BMW 325i convertible. And for the little amount of driving I do in it since I don't commute to work, its just fine with me, so I scrap the trade-in idea.
I mention the inspection failure to Nick and he suggests that my turning off the engine while waiting an hour for the inspection is the reason it failed the emissions test. He asks me when was the last oil change, and I tell him about 5k miles ago. He suggests having the oil changed, adding a bottle of octane boost to the gasoline, and getting re-inspected while the engine is still warm.
So yesterday during my lunch break I did just that. I got the oil changed at Jiffy Lube and had them replace the burned out parking light bulb too. Then after work I poured in a bottle of the octane boost and ran her over to the DMV. There were 2 cars in front of me. I left the engine running and in 10 minutes my car was re-inspected and passed!
I still had to spend 35 minutes inside the DMV waiting for my number to be called, but at least I was waiting with confidence! I got my renewal sticker and stuck it on my tag, happy as a clam, knowing my 'old' car was safe for the next 2 years.
By the way, since the DMV does not send out renewal notices via regular mail, I have signed up for their email notification for all 3 vehicles. I do not want to have to repeat this situation again!
Crush du Jour: Sam Jaeger
Wednesday, October 07, 2009
A picture's worth a thousand words
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